sexualshame
Hessa – my first experience of porn 6 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments I can see the place now, the place I had my first experience of porn. A terraced hillside in southern Switzerland, right down in the Italian-speaking canton of Ticino. The hillside once grew grapes, which […]
Meatloaf’s Bat Out of Hell – a rock opera on patriarchy 29 September 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Patriarchy , No Comments Some years ago I wrote how Pink Floyd’s 1979 epic double album The Wall was a complex 26-song cycle about patriarchy and its institutionalised sexual shame. I don’t know […]
Unporn – a new take on sexual shame 21 September 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments “Our world is becoming increasingly visual. Yet, when it comes to the visual expression around sexual subjects, we’re limited to medical diagrams and porn.” So writes Mikael Cho, Founder/CEO of the excellent free stock photo […]
Is sexual shame keeping you single? 24 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments When I was young, for a few years we used to holiday at a hotel on Lake Lugano in northern Italy. And, every year, two English gentlemen—brothers—were there at the same time. One of […]
Unconscious shame and the ‘full body massage’ 10 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I have blogged repeatedly about society’s unconscious shame about emotions and sexuality, a shame that—as well as erupting in violently destructive ways—largely hides in plain sight. Our unconscious sense of ‘sex is dirty’ and ‘I’m […]
Study links sexual shame to suicide risk 25 March 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: News , Shame , No Comments In an article titled ‘Teens who hide sexuality at higher risk of suicide’ (1), SOS Safety Magazine reports on a recent study by the American Journal of Preventative Medicine. The study is titled […]
The sexual radicalisation of Lawrence of Arabia 9 March 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: History , Radicalisation , No Comments I recently wrote about the influence of unconscious shame upon the personality of perhaps the single most memorable individual to emerge from World War I, T. E. Lawrence, better known as Lawrence of […]
#MeToo reveals scale of male sexual dysfunction 11 November 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: News , Sexuality , No Comments #METOO has changed the landscape of society. It is no longer possible to ignore the widespread extent of male sexual dysfunction. For too long we—and by ‘we’ I mean men—have pretended that unhealthy […]
Why is the 3rd finger our wedding ring finger? 6 October 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments You know the deal. The bride and groom stand before the altar. The celebrant asks for the ring or, these days, rings. The best man fumbles them—accidentally or on purpose—before handing them over. […]
Why do we hug with our bums sticking out? 1 October 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , 2 Comments Have you noticed how different people hug? Some people hug standing straight, with the whole length of their bodies touching. Some, however, lean in and clasp each other around the shoulder. This posture […]