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When men become emotionally available their sexual demons emerge 6 September 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , No Comments In a blog titled Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? I describe a situation I see in a growing number of relationships: one partner (usually the woman) is emotionally […]
The woodlot – using early sexual memories to heal trauma 19 August 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , Sexuality , No Comments I recently recovered an early sexual memory, from a woodlot in Switzerland aged 10 or so—around the same time as my first experience of porn. Recovery of this memory shows […]
The 1960s Sexual Revolution – breaking mass sexual repression 18 August 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: History , Sexuality , No Comments My attention has recently been drawn to the 1960s Sexual Revolution, an event that has largely receded out of memory and is mostly remembered through the occasional popular song on the […]
Measuring shame – Wilhelm Reich’s 1930s oscillograph experiments 8 July 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , Sexuality , Shame , No Comments Unconscious shame may seem like a vague, subjective concept. In the 1930s, Wilhelm Reich conducted experiments using an oscillograph showing that not only was shame—particularly sexual shame—measurable, but also that […]
Premature Ejaculation – how shame short-circuits sex 28 February 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I recently wrote about the impact of shame on Erectile Dysfunction. In this blog, we’re going to look at that other great bête noire of male sexuality, Premature Ejaculation (PE). Bugbears & black beasts It’s […]
Erectile Dysfunction – how shame prevents sex 27 February 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments In a blog titled The forbidden image of the penis I examined the fundamentally shameful nature of the penis. Here let us examine how that shame manifests in Erectile Dysfunction (ED). According to the British Association of […]
Libido disappears when shame is absent 28 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments “My libido is strong. I have a high sex drive.” How often are such phrases used to justify inappropriate, disrespectful, and unhealthy sexual behaviour? How often do politicians, actors and other celebrities make the […]
The Han – Korea’s community trauma 28 October 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments In his award-winning documentary Parts Unknown, Anthony Bourdain visited Koreatown in Los Angeles and spoke to several self-confessed ‘bad Koreans’ who had defied family expectations about their lifestyles. All of them referred to the han […]
In patriarchy, everything is toxic 2 September 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Patriarchy , No Comments The word ‘patriarchy’ is mostly understood in simplistic terms. Patriarchies are societies where men rule, and women get bashed down. The problem with this view is that it clouds the extent to which such societies […]
What is sexual energy? 29 September 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Sexuality , No Comments What is sexual energy? It may seem like an odd question, an obvious question, even an unnecessary question. Yet it is the question that unlocks answers to some of life’s deepest mysteries. Sexual energy is high-octane, […]