responsibility
‘Here be dragons’ – healing generational trauma is a hero’s journey 2 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments Remember those old maps with blank spaces around the edges marked ‘Here be dragons’? That’s where you’re headed—the blank spaces in your family history: the times, events and people that […]
Self-healing requires accepting responsibility 18 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Have you ever wondered why some people rave about self-help books, yet others dismiss the same books as useless garbage? Same book, different people: the key factor is the people, not the book. The common denominator of […]
What is emotional unavailability? 13 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments I first began to write about emotional unavailability in the post Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? In it, I wrote: I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with […]
What is emotional responsibility? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is emotional responsibility? It’s the Holy Grail. Eldorado. The X-factor. It’s what’s buried at the ‘X marks the spot’ on the pirate map. It’s the thing that U2 still hadn’t found when they released that cracking single […]
The laws of emotional mechanics 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Emotional principles , No Comments In our intellect-driven world we’re very comfortable with the words ‘laws’ and ‘mechanics’. ‘Emotions’, less so—particularly when it’s in a sentence about laws and mechanics. Yet emotional mechanics are just as precise, just as […]
How shame affects arrested development 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what […]
Breathe – and stay above the fear and rage 5 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , No Comments As I write this, coronavirus is sweeping the globe, public trust in the UK government has collapsed and the streets of America are full of rage. So is my social media feed: “It’s […]
Our toxic environment reflects our toxic consciousness 25 January 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments As I walked along a grass verge recently, a man approached, smoking a cigarette. He dropped the cigarette, crushed it with his heel and strode past exhaling smoke. He’d just polluted the environment. He had […]
What is the mother wound? 8 November 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. Yet one look at the world reveals a globe reeling from crisis to […]
All the solutions you seek are inside you 16 August 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments All the solutions you seek are inside you. It’s one of those pithy sayings floating around the Internet and popping up in annoying Facebook memes. A colleague used to call them “inconvenient.” They’re […]