The mother wound happened through depersonalisation 11 January 2025 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , No Comments In What is the mother wound? I describe the failure of genuine emotional nurturing that created humanity’s blindly rapacious, self-destructive psychological paradigm—what we call ‘normal’ but I call the Patriarchal Operating System. The mechanism that […]
Trauma release timeline – from past to present 10 January 2025 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments Releasing trauma is a confusing experience. We’re dealing with past and present simultaneously, and the two can be hard to differentiate as the trauma unravels. In this post I explain the basic dynamic […]
Puberty shames teens into emotional stagnation 10 April 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Shame , 2 Comments In Patriarchy demands that our relationships are stagnant, I describe how our current human paradigm only survives by locking us into relationships that promise satisfaction but are in fact emotionally and sexually sterile. To […]
The emotional cost of generational trauma 25 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments What is the impact of generational trauma? How do we count the emotional cost of generational trauma? This photograph from Sydney Sims says it all. We spend our lives trying to paste on a smile […]
Pain is the roadmap for what needs healing 7 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments In the personal healing world, we talk about the ‘healing journey’. What does that mean? We’re on a journey to healing. Yes, obviously—but where’s it taking us? What’s the destination? At this point, […]
How porn addiction led me to the mother wound 4 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Pornography , No Comments My journey into unconscious shame began with porn addiction and ended with the mother wound. And here it is—the blog that ties together the two ends of a very long […]
What is arrested development? 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 2 Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what is […]
Victims, victimizers and seeing porn at 10 16 May 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Pornography , No Comments In Hessa – my first experience of porn I wrote about seeing porn at 10 when I was exposed to a softcore sex comic in Switzerland. The comic was part of a series […]
Shame-based issues #2 – Depersonalisation 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments “You’re staring straight ahead. Somehow your awareness peels away from you, in slow motion. It’s like you’ve cracked in two, and one half is facing the wrong way. Are you in your physical body, which you know […]
What are shame-based issues? 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments Unconscious shame has given rise to a family of shame-based issues that all share a common denominator: the inability to discuss them. I’ve written about the origins of this shame in A brief history of shame. […]