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We have no language for pre-verbal trauma 11 December 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Ancestral trauma , Generational trauma , Mother wound , No Comments I have long wondered why some people talk about their issues while others don’t. I’ve often mistaken ‘can’t talk’ for ‘don’t want to talk’. More recently I’ve started […]
The mother wound = lack of emotional nurturing 4 December 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments In What is the mother wound? I describe the way that the wound at the core of humanity causes six key separations (or fragmentations). Of these, however, there is only one […]
The mother wound – “The dreadful has already happened” 22 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments In a lecture shortly after the end of World War II, German philosopher Martin Heidegger asserted that, “The dreadful has already happened”. I would like to borrow this phrase, as […]
What is the ‘false self’? 20 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments In blogs such as What is the unconscious?, What are shame-based issues? and How shame affects arrested development I describe the psychological legacy of patriarchy. Here I pull together various strands to describe some of the ways […]
Does generational trauma attract us to genealogy? 9 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments We like to think that reason rules our lives, that every choice we make is conscious. What about our choice of interests? When something interests us, is that a choice, is it random—or is […]
The emotional cost of generational trauma 25 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments What is the impact of generational trauma? How do we count the emotional cost of generational trauma? This photograph from Sydney Sims says it all. We spend our lives trying to paste on a smile […]
How porn addiction led me to the mother wound 4 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Pornography , No Comments My journey into unconscious shame began with porn addiction and ended with the mother wound. And here it is—the blog that ties together the two ends of a very long […]
The more you dig out your emotional damage, the more it affects you 17 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments On this site I’ve catalogued the emotional mechanics that govern our lives. We have to work with those mechanics as we go through the process of clearing our […]
“Pipes everywhere” – how Process Manufacturing maps human emotions 10 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , Mother wound , No Comments I used to work at the largest cannery in the southern hemisphere. Back in the 1980s, the cannery sold vast quantities of tomato sauce, baked beans and tinned fruit. […]
What is abandonment? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is abandonment? The question seems simple enough. Some people are unfortunate enough to lose the support of a parent or significant other, often during childhood, creating feelings of abandonment. What is abandonment? The Wikipedia definition supports this view: […]