Why is it so hard to ask for help? 14 July 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I can still remember it vividly. It was 1975 and I was 14 years old. My friends and I were learning to ride motorcycles. My best friend’s dad had a 50cc Honda step-through, […]
Horror films and the shame of sex 18 June 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments While most film genres rise and fall in popularity over the decades—we are currently in a mini-age of comic book action films—one genre stands head and shoulders above all others in durability: horror. […]
Shame-based issues #6 – Radicalisation 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Radicalisation , Shame , No Comments Radicalisation may seem a strange thing to lump in with shame-based issues, but every single extremist who ever lived has or had an unconscious but profound sense of shame. It is from this shame that […]
Shame-based issues #5 – Honour-based violence 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Shame , No Comments While the term ‘honour-based violence’ is often used in the context of the British Asian community, it includes all violence meted out for infidelity or perceived sexual slights, which all communities are prone to. […]
Shame-based issues #4 – Sexual dysfunction 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments If there is one area where humanity’s fundamental shame is glaringly obvious, it’s sexual dysfunction. Take a look at the following statistics: 35% of the world’s women have experienced violence or sexual violence 45% […]
Shame-based issues #3 – Porn addiction 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , Shame , No Comments First of all, let’s dispense with the argument about whether porn addiction actually exists. From a clinical perspective, porn addicts do not exhibit the same physiological symptoms as nicotine, alcohol and drug addicts. Dr […]
Shame-based issues #2 – Depersonalisation 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments “You’re staring straight ahead. Somehow your awareness peels away from you, in slow motion. It’s like you’ve cracked in two, and one half is facing the wrong way. Are you in your physical body, which you know […]
Shame-based issues #1 – Self-harm 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments In other blogs I have written about how high sensitivity, anxiety, doubt, panic, low self-esteem and low confidence are a family of related feelings. Such feelings consequently give rise to a family of behaviours as a means […]
What are shame-based issues? 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments Unconscious shame has given rise to a family of shame-based issues that all share a common denominator: the inability to discuss them. I’ve written about the origins of this shame in A brief history of shame. […]
A brief history of shame 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 4 Comments In What is unconscious shame? I’ve written about how shame affects us today. In What is ancestral trauma? I’ve written about the shame we still unconsciously carry from the dim and distant past. This brief […]