What is emotional unavailability? 13 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments I first began to write about emotional unavailability in the post Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? In it, I wrote: I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with […]
What is emotional responsibility? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is emotional responsibility? It’s the Holy Grail. Eldorado. The X-factor. It’s what’s buried at the ‘X marks the spot’ on the pirate map. It’s the thing that U2 still hadn’t found when they released that cracking single […]
What is abandonment? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is abandonment? The question seems simple enough. Some people are unfortunate enough to lose the support of a parent or significant other, often during childhood, creating feelings of abandonment. What is abandonment? The Wikipedia definition supports this view: […]
The laws of emotional mechanics 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Emotional principles , No Comments In our intellect-driven world we’re very comfortable with the words ‘laws’ and ‘mechanics’. ‘Emotions’, less so—particularly when it’s in a sentence about laws and mechanics. Yet emotional mechanics are just as precise, just as […]
What is human sensitivity? 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments In What is unconscious shame?, What is sexual shame?, What is generational trauma? and other posts I’ve written about the layer of unconscious, invisible shame and trauma that overlays our whole society. This raises a question: why are […]
What is sexual shame? 1 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments In What is unconscious shame? I described how all the feminine aspects of our being—our emotions, our feelings about our body and our sexuality—have been pushed down into our unconscious by several millennia of patriarchal culture. […]
How shame affects arrested development 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what […]
What is the ‘sexual-spiritual split’? 25 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Sexuality , No Comments The ‘sexual-spiritual split’ is a term that comes to us from Michael Picucci, PhD, co-founder of the Institute for Staged Recovery. Writing in The Journey toward Complete Recovery, Picucci describes the sexual-spiritual split as “a […]
What is the mother wound? 8 November 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. Yet one look at the world reveals a globe reeling from crisis to […]
What is ancestral trauma? 21 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Generational trauma , Patriarchy , No Comments In Trauma exists as a series of ripples, I describe the multiple, interconnected sources of trauma that may exist in our lives. I’ve broken down these sources into five key layers. In this […]