Unporn – a new take on sexual shame 21 September 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments “Our world is becoming increasingly visual. Yet, when it comes to the visual expression around sexual subjects, we’re limited to medical diagrams and porn.” So writes Mikael Cho, Founder/CEO of the excellent free stock photo […]
You can’t cross a chasm in two small jumps 18 September 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments I am standing at the lip of a chasm. I would like to tell you that my back faces the chasm—that I have just crossed it. But no, the chasm stands before […]
Everything you desire lies outside your comfort zone 30 June 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments I know. It’s not what you wanted to hear. We all have desires, and we all like to think that they are almost within reach. Yet some of our desires simply stay almost […]
Life isn’t fair – but it is impartial 23 June 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments A man crouches in a field of glowing grass. His head is bowed, his face concealed by a wide-brimmed hat. Is he having a moment of blissful, peaceful community with nature—or is he […]
Anthony Bourdain – the double-edged sword of judgment 11 June 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , News , No Comments On Friday 8 June 2018 the foodie world reeled to the news that celebrity food author and TV presenter Anthony Bourdain, 61, had committed suicide. I never met Bourdain. I never even […]
Is sexual shame keeping you single? 24 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments When I was young, for a few years we used to holiday at a hotel on Lake Lugano in northern Italy. And, every year, two English gentlemen—brothers—were there at the same time. One of […]
Nazi Germany – radicalisation of a nation 23 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: History , Radicalisation , No Comments Despite the recent downfall of the Islamic State, the term radicalisation is still largely associated with religious extremism. In The sexual radicalisation of Elliot Rodger, I wrote that religion is only one of several […]
Emotions precede thoughts 14 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Have you ever wondered why people behave irrationally? Or why they sometimes can’t seem to stop themselves uttering put-downs or engaging in other low-grade abusive behaviour for no obvious reason? The answer lies in these three simple words: emotions […]
Unconscious shame and the ‘full body massage’ 10 May 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I have blogged repeatedly about society’s unconscious shame about emotions and sexuality, a shame that—as well as erupting in violently destructive ways—largely hides in plain sight. Our unconscious sense of ‘sex is dirty’ and ‘I’m […]
How to handle a triggered person face-to-face 23 April 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: How-to & step-by-step , No Comments In all walks of life, we are encountering triggered individuals or an increasingly regular basis. Whether it’s on social media, at home, at work, at the supermarket or a random incident of road […]