Why do men collect porn they only watch once? 20 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , 2 Comments The porn stash… that ubiquitous—or near-ubiquitous—pile of material where men’s darker desires are catalogued. It used to be magazines and VHS tapes. Later, the bulky, clunky VHS videos went out and slimmer DVDs […]
Are you fighting or flowing with time? 4 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Have you ever had the experience of wanting to drive somewhere in a hurry, only to find a succession of abnormally slow cars in front of you, slowing you down? I’ve had this repeatedly. […]
Newsreader shamed for penis-shaped jacket neckline 31 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: News , Shame , No Comments Australian Channel Nine newsreader Samantha Heathwood has acquired celebrity status after images of her wearing a jacket with a penis-shaped neckline went viral in early January 2019. The jacket makes Heathwood appear as if […]
Naughty or nice? The patriarchal programming behind Santa’s question 26 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments Over the Christmas period I was offered a chocolate with the rider that “you can only have one if you’ve been good.” The admonition was no doubt intended as a joke, but it […]
Porn therapies – symptom management or root cause resolution? 22 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments When it comes to porn therapies, there are two ways you can go. The first is the way that most of us unconsciously drift into—symptom management. We try to stop watching porn, first […]
Why do we always eat too much at Christmas? 21 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Patriarchy , No Comments Amid all the jollity of Christmas—much of it genuine, some of it forced—it’s an awkward question to ask. It disturbs the glossy patina of pre-Christmas rituals. Putting up the tree […]
To make change happen, you must be uncompromising 16 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments We all struggle with change. At the same time we often want change, or at least recognise the need for it. Things have become stale. Or a situation that we have long tolerated […]
Sex in patriarchy – how the past shapes sex today 15 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Patriarchy , Sexuality , No Comments In A brief history of shame, I wrote how patriarchy arose some 6,000 years ago, giving rise to male dominant, anti-female, anti-sexual societies. Here I’m going to examine […]
Bad Will Hunting – your shame is not your fault 13 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments “It’s not your fault.” In the Oscar-winning film Good Will Hunting, much-loved actor Robin Williams plays a psychologist who treats an angry, uncommunicative South Boston janitor (played by Matt Damon) […]
Porn is a gauge of our sexual health 6 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments A lady friend recently recounted to me that she had been sitting on a train next to a man who was openly watching porn on his mobile. My friend felt very uncomfortable and found […]