Porn therapies – symptom management or root cause resolution? 22 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments When it comes to porn therapies, there are two ways you can go. The first is the way that most of us unconsciously drift into—symptom management. We try to stop watching porn, first […]
Why do we always eat too much at Christmas? 21 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Patriarchy , No Comments Amid all the jollity of Christmas—much of it genuine, some of it forced—it’s an awkward question to ask. It disturbs the glossy patina of pre-Christmas rituals. Putting up the tree […]
To make change happen, you must be uncompromising 16 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments We all struggle with change. At the same time we often want change, or at least recognise the need for it. Things have become stale. Or a situation that we have long tolerated […]
Sex in patriarchy – how the past shapes sex today 15 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Patriarchy , No Comments In A brief history of shame, I wrote how patriarchy arose some 6,000 years ago, giving rise to male dominant, anti-female, anti-sexual societies. Here I’m going to examine the way […]
Bad Will Hunting – your shame is not your fault 13 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments “It’s not your fault.” In the Oscar-winning film Good Will Hunting, much-loved actor Robin Williams plays a psychologist who treats an angry, uncommunicative South Boston janitor (played by Matt Damon) […]
Porn is a gauge of our sexual health 6 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments A lady friend recently recounted to me that she had been sitting on a train next to a man who was openly watching porn on his mobile. My friend felt very uncomfortable and found […]
Life drawing – the light and shade of shame 3 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments I recently started life modelling—posing naked for artists to draw the human body. Even in life drawing, as in everywhere in our patriarchy-based society, there is shame. As a keen observer […]
Pointing the finger at God – why are Michelangelo’s willies so small? 30 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , History , Patriarchy , No Comments I’ve been a little obsessed by penis size lately. I think it’s something to do with having recently begun life modelling with the good folks at […]
Does sexual shame affect penis size? 19 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I’ve written extensively on this site how sexual shame unconsciously affects the entire spectrum of human sexual behaviour, both psychologically and in the bedroom arts. But let’s go one step further. Could it even affect that […]
Do you listen to hear or listen to respond? 18 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , How-to & step-by-step , No Comments Listening. Like breathing, it’s one of those things that we tend to take for granted—in other words, to assume that we do it well. I recently wrote the […]